5 TYPES OF FRIENDS EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW

As a person living miles away from home, I experience lots of things. I learn a lot from those experiences and I believe that it would be so worthwhile for me now and in the future. One of my findings is about what a friend is. When we stay away with our family members, we are supposed to find the other ones that can take over their position. In short, friend plays important roles in this case and I do find unique things about that too that may be interesting to share in this article. Generally, there are five types of friends that I would like to discuss here, they are loyalist, advisors, adventurer, leader, and demure.

Loyalist, is a type of friend that is never absent when we need their helps. They magically have a reason to come and help us happily. Sometimes, they are even more concerned about their friends than their own. I luckily have a friend who is a loyalist. Once I was sick after work, I called him to take me to the clinic at 11.00 PM. I knew he might be so exhausted because he just finished his work at 9.00 PM. However, he told me that he would come to my kost and took me to the clinic as he was so worried about my health. I am so grateful for having such a friend. Loyalist never asks for a reward when helping people. When we attempt to credit their helps, they will strongly refuse it. Oddly, they never expect their friends to do the same thing to them as what they do. They will argue that they don’t want to make other people bothered. Loyalist is a true hero!

Advisor is a friend that is always ready with his advice. They are good listeners. In one community, advisor is the one where people try to get to because they always have brilliant and wise thoughts. They are not sophisticated people, yet they always come up with the ideas that can help with our problems. Unlike loyalist, sometimes we have to adjust the schedule when we can meet them. For them, good times will produce good thoughts and words. However, people even tend to approach them to share their problems rather than sharing with their parents who sometimes have irrelevant advice. Their advice is relevant and direct to the point, moreover, they will build up our confidence back and guide us to the right paths. They are so cool!

Adventurer is exactly an adventurous person that likes to introduce their ideas, philosophy, and activities that we might have feared to explore on our own. They are the first people who will say “yes” for travelling to any places we might need to think thousand times to explore to. Adventurer is so energetic and usually ready to do anything for doing something challenging such as diving, hiking, camping, extreme sports, etc. My friend who is an adventurer keeps promoting the new challenges to explore without thinking I reluctantly do that. Nevertheless, we can rely on them too in case unpredictable things occur because they most likely travel from their soul and willingness. They might not as good as advisor in giving advice, yet they can be relied upon the unfamiliar situations we face. They are brave and risk takers!

Leader is a person who leads and directs us to the path they believe in. This type of friend is different with adventurer because they tend to influence other people to put trust on them in bigger situations. They are not evil though, they just want to get a special room for them as they believe that they are born with strong leadership. In a discussion, they usually become a speaker and are the ones who keep implanting the ideas to other members. They reject to follow other people’s opinions, if they have to, they usually need time to think about that matter in hours before they finally give up. I sometimes have to keep my own opinion because they place themselves in the centre of attention. In short, they are a little bit selfish as they are lack of self-corrections. However, when we put trust on them, they will do anything to keep it perfectly to not let us down.

Last but not least, demure is a person who doesn’t really affect the friendship because their existence is most likely forgotten. With or without them, there is no significant change because they are quiet. They don’t bring immense influences into a friendship. It is like the opposite of a leader, they tend to be followers and passive. I like to have a demure in my community because they are always okay when I need a partner to attend some events such as lunch, birthday party, wedding party, etc. They are not really talkative but that’s the uniqueness of these people as they never get us annoyed. But funnily, they never get upset or emotional despite they never get involved in serious cases. They believe that their participation is enough to define what a friend is.

To sum up, I think nobody is perfect. Perfection is only owned by God. Therefore, we can’t expect to have perfect friends and be too picky. No matter what our friends are, they are still friends. We don’t need to make us busy by altering their characters to what we want to. Adventurer will always be an adventurer and they will never turn to loyalist. We might have our own uniqueness that makes our friends like to be with us. But still, the decision is ours, among those types of friends, people may have different favorite friends to get closer with.

 (picture is taken from google)